Monday, February 22, 2010

Home Sweet Home... or not??

I’m sure you’ve heard: “Home Sweet Home” or “There’s no place like home”…… but what if your home is dirty and cluttered? If you have a child and/or pets this could be more of a place of struggle and stress looking at the home you only wish you could feel relaxed and loving towards.
My home was usually pretty tidy and clean… when I had a husband who was never home (now ex-husband) and one small and medium sized dogs along with three cats and a full-time job outside the home. Yes, I had to vacuum every other day but it certainly wasn’t as hard to keep up with as it is now.

Now, I work a lot from home, have a toddler, a large and medium sized dogs to go with the three cats. Oh, and a husband who is almost always home when he’s not working 50-70 hours per week. When he’s not working his crazy hours I am certainly not going to expect him to clean house !

Picture this: you have just cleaned a room and gotten to the end, only to look back at it with a smile on your face, and what do you see….? The room looks the same as it did before -or even worse - and standing in the middle of the clutter, toys, dust and dog hair is the toddler and two dogs. They each seem to have grins on their faces. They are proud of their accomplishments. The accomplishment of UNdoing all your hard work and you burst into tears. Again.

This was me until I hired a house cleaner. Now, Monday is my favourite day. It’s the hardest working day of the week. I work for four hours on cleaning my home alongside the house cleaner, doing business work that I can’t get done when alone with my daughter and I am exhausted at the end of it… but so is my daughter. She falls asleep within minutes of her head hitting the pillow. And when I leave her room on Monday nights I walk into each room of my home, with a smile on my face.

Have a great Monday everyone ! I know I will.

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Tuesday, February 16, 2010

To eat meat or not to eat meat.....

I call myself a vegetarian. I haven’t eaten beef or pork or even chicken since 2000... only fish since then, actually. With the exception of one bite of 2 different kinds of wild meat a couple of years ago... until last night. I had moose meat hamburger on my spaghetti.

I know people aren’t going to understand my decision and that’s ok. I didn’t become vegetarian, or call myself that, to impress anyone or prove anything. I use my intuition to decide what to eat, or not, at the time. Any time I don’t it’s usually a bad decision.

I first started thinking about being a ‘veggie’ when I was hearing more and more about the chemicals that animals were ingesting for personal gain. Growth hormones, antibiotics in the food.... certainly doesn’t benefit ME or the animals so who is benefitting and why?? It seems to all revolve around money. Later, I learned about the treatment of many (I dare say most) of these animals and decided I made a good decision.

People have asked me, in the past, why I didn’t decide on organic meats and poultry. I tell them that I used my intuition when deciding... I actually meditated on it and got the feeling that I should just do without, with the exception of fish. So, that is what I did and I’ve never regretted it. Those who made the decision without using their intuition or being in alignment may have had a different outcome but, for me, there was no negative repercussions.

Since becoming a vegetarian I married a hunter. Kind of a funny situation some may think but it works out quite well, actually. I learned that if man doesn’t kill wild animals at some point they become over-populated and get overrun with disease. Also, my husband is an ethical hunter meaning that he doesn’t empty the gun trying to get one shot to stop the animal. He actually aims, only taking the shot if he believes that it will kill the animal so not to cause suffering. Being Pagan, he uses his intuition to decide whether or not it’s the ‘right’ thing for him to do.

To eat meat or not to eat meat? Is that the question? Maybe the question is... has the animal had a good life? Or, does this feel right to me right now? Do you use your intuition? Or, do you do what society (or your parents or other family or friends) tells you is right for you?

These questions can extend to other things besides meat. Do you eat too much junk food and then feel sick? What about alcohol or even coffee? Something to think about....

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Monday, February 8, 2010


I really believe that your own opinion of yourself is the only one that matters but if you were to describe yourself what would you say? Would you be kind, smart, confident, funny, giving, inspirational...? What type of person do you want to be and what do you think others would say?

Last night I saw a post on a friend’s Facebook status that I found interesting. It read, “let's see how forthcoming my Facebook friends are. Leave a 1 word comment that you think best describes me. It can only be 1 word. No more than 1 word. Then copy & paste this post on your wall, so I can leave a word about you. This should be interesting... !”

I don’t normally add these types of things as my status update but was curious this time. What I got was unexpected. I guess I expected my closest friends to comment... but they didn’t. Instead... very new friends, very old friends, clients and people in between did and I was honoured by their descriptive words: energetic, thankful, caring, peaceful, Earthmother, kind, honest and friend. Looking at each of those words I am speechless. Yes, I believe I am each of those things, but for others to see it as well....well, that is what makes me speechless. And proud. And grateful.

Give five words that YOU think would describe you... and then five words that OTHERS would describe you. And then compare the two lists. You might surprise yourself.


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Monday, February 1, 2010

Long, medium or short?

Hair. A shallow topic, I know. However, hair is such an important part of our appearance and something that everyone has to deal with. Someone once told me that our beliefs are like a house built around us... each part of the structure are like the structure of a house and when one peace falls apart we are really shook up. I think it’s the same with our hair. Many people, like myself, keep the same style for years. While others can change it drastically and often.

This summer I got my bob-with wedge haircut that I’ve had for about 9 years (from very long - middle of my back, that I also had for many years) cut off to very short.

I blogged about it then as well. Maybe it was just the place I was at wanting less hassles in my life... but I want a change and want it longer this time! My life must be ready for more care for me, maybe.

Long, flowing and sexy; medium-length, cute and bob-ish; short, sporty and no-nonsense..... which do you prefer??



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