I'm doing a Brene Brown/Oprah e-course and love it!! The book is called, "The Gifts of Imperfection". Here's part of today's message:
"Being perfect is about trying to get approval and acceptance. It's about trying to avoid the hurt of being hurt & judged. People try to be perfect because they think it might make them more lovable. But really, being perfect doesn't protect you from being judged, it protects you from being SEEN. The only way to be TRULY loved is to be open and to be seen for who you are - in all your glorious imperfection."
Really makes me think of how I 'hide' my own imperfections. I used to post on Social Media, whatever I was thinking. Doesn't everybody...? Ummmm..... no, they don't. Apparently, SOME people don't ever have bad days and allow others to walk all over them, because when I would post about MY feelings I was jumped all over and when I held to my boundaries and didn't allow myself to be taken advantage of I was called names like 'crazy' and said I should be better than that since I am self-employed. Ummm... what??? Yup, apparently, those who are self-employed need to also be 'fake'. LoL!! Wow, eh?? Actually, what really confuses me is that the person who was taking advantage of me and disrespecting me on my personal Facebook page was also self employed and she was not judged as being crazy. I guess fake people are looking for a popularity contest and I can be proud to say I am not part of that crowd. :-)
After that huge incident I 'self protected'. I only post personal feelings on a 'close friends' list as a way to avoid being shamed, criticized, or hurt in any way. Of course, I can't be 100% sure that it's working... I don't know whenever someone removed me from their social media list or blocks me from their news feed wall. But, after reading the definition of 'authentic' I'm ready to give myself more of a break.
There is no such thing as perfect just the effort for the impossible which leaves us frustrated and expecting more from others can honestly be attained. Find perfection... in the IMperfection. If we are aiming for perfect then we aren't being our 'true selves' and those who love us are not loving us for the 'real' us, are they?? ;-)