In a Facebook group, today, a woman was saying that people actually told her to "get over it and move on" and another woman replied,
"I was with mine from age 17-41. It's like a death. No one in their right mind would tell someone who lost a loved one, "get over it".
I would just say to them- "Step aside hater, I'm healing & you're impeding the process."
Maybe some get over it and move on but every story is different. Every ending is different.
Not every one has domestic violence, as a child, within their story. Not everyone has domestic violence, as an adult, within their story. And not everyone has it continue after the abuser is physically gone. Please remember that when you talk to someone dealing with separation and divorce. It could be more of a death and more complicated than mere separation. Nobody just "gets over" abuse and tragedy.